One night stands have a pretty terrible reputation. You imagine the stumbling awkwardness of two strangers coming together after a long night of appletini’s and shared misery. The sex is “meh” at best and leaves both parties feeling disappointed at best, and downright shitty at worst.
But I don’t think it has to be this way. I have over the past few months started to open myself up to the possibility that good sex, or a good connection can happen between two people who don’t necessarily intend on spending the rest of their lives together. As we get older, we tend to reserve our best moves and most intimate feelings exclusively for people who we are in a relationship with. This sounds great in theory, but in practice it means we can go for months without connecting sexually to someone. That sucks! It also makes finding a partner more and more of a lifelong mission and we slip into the “destiny mentality” that there is our One love out there, our Soulmate… which as you know, is bullshit.… Read the rest