Practice saying “I love you.”
Practice all the damn time.
Tell your Mom you love her. Not just “I love you” but give it some explanation. Tell her you love her in a way that feels frustrating but will last for literally ever. Tell your friends that you love them in a way that makes you miss them in the middle of the day even when you’re meeting them later for drinks.
Tell your dog and your neighbor and the guy who delivers pizza. This expression of love is strange, but it’s honest. And tell them what kind of love it is. There’s no shame in saying I love you. Love doesn’t come in a one-size-fits-all package.
Practice saying I love you – so when you find yourself in that moment, scared out of your mind to say those words, they don’t feel awkward or unfamiliar.
Let those 3 words stand on their own.
If you practice, you’ll never have to say “that came out wrong” or feel the devastating regret of not saying it at all.
Of course you’ll screw it up, and forget to say it. But your Mom and Kyle the pizza guy will understand.
Too many people wait until it’s do-or-die, the eleventh hour, the moment of truth. If you’re staring down the barrel of your failing relationship, it’s not the time to be practicing “I love you.”
Better to say it too early, than too late.
So start saying it now. Look around you – who’s in the room? Tell them! (I’ll wait…)
Make it a daily practice. A necessity. Love should feel like brushing your teeth.
You’ll never need to search for the words to describe your love. You won’t have to resort to cliche’s when you describe the way your person make you feel after your first night together. You won’t answer “nothing” when they ask you “what are you thinking about?”
You will be able to say “I love you, but I don’t think this is a healthy relationship.” “I love you, but I don’t want to have a baby.” “I love you, and I am ready to make this thing official.”
These moments are too important not to practice.