We meet someone we like. We go on three dates with them. We sleep with them. If we keep sleeping with them we agree to be exclusive. We date for 3-5 years and then get engaged. Then 12-18 months later we get married. Then we stop having sex.
That has always been my understanding of how my relationships were supposed to go – and if STEP ONE didn’t move to STEP TWO in the appropriate timeframe, then he didn’t love me and I was “wasting my time”. This fucked up formulaic approach to relationships has painted couples into unhappy corners for years. After exploring a huge variety of monogamous and open relationships over the last ten years I have finally discovered the perfect balance. And honestly – it sounds fucking awesome but has yet to be tested. And for people who are NOT into open relationships – this might be more interesting (and less gross) than you think.… Read the rest