Feeling blah? Angry sex might be your cure.
“Don’t go to bed angry” is the worst advice I have ever received. I love being angry. When I’m angry – I get shit done. I change. I’m awesome.
Anger is a complicated emotion and one that we’ve never really been taught to deal with. When we get advice like “Don’t go to bed angry”, we assume that the only way out of our enraged state is to talk things out. That we need to air our grievances, yell and scream until we reach an agreement and fall blissfully asleep.
I agree with some of this. Communication is key, although I think non-verbal communication is far more effective than “talking things out” using “I feel…” statements. There is often screaming but it’s a very different kind. The anger/ecstasy scream has a very distinct sound that shakes your soul alive and cleans out the backlog of small grudges we’ve got lodged in our psyche without having to say a single word.… Read the rest