Is love really the most important thing in a relationship? Is it true that love conquers all? Trust is less sexy, but just as important.
If I could trace the reason people stay in bad relationships too long back to one issue, it is this.
They have blinding love without trust.
People hyperfocus on their shared love, while they let trust, sexual compatibility, collaboration and communication crumble beneath it. Romantic love is easy to find and it’s easy to put into action. If love fades, a gift, a kiss, an “I love you” can immediately alleviate the fading affection.
Trust on the other hand, is harder to earn. It takes time and effort and is compounding. It can’t be proven with one single act or statement, but has to be built with ongoing actions and communication. Trust can’t be half-assed or faked.
Love isn’t enough.
You’ve gotta have trust, dudes.
So maybe you’re in this sort of relationship.… Read the rest