All the kids are doing it (apparently) and from my experience talking to men and women in their 30s to 60s, so are the adults. “Chumming” is not nearly as gross or explicit as it might sound. It’s more literal than that.
Chumming occurs when a person loosely throws out bits of open ended correspondence to see what kind of reaction they get, in order to gauge interest and attraction in a potential date.
For most people it comes in the form of text messages. It’s a non-emotional and indifferent text sent in order to see if the other person is interested in you, but without showing him or her that you are interested. It’s essentially an emotional stalemate. It’s like trying to turn someone on while having a staring contest. It usually sounds like this:
- “What are you up to tonight?”
- “Hope you had a nice holiday.”
- “Just saw the new Hunger Games movie.