A huge part of my work with clients is breaking down The Glorification of Busy. So many of the people that I work with have recently gone through breakups or are uncomfortable being single, so they throw themselves into their careers and fill their lives with busy work. They are rarely actually productive, but the time spent pushing papers, rearranging schedules and doing “research” online feels better to them than facing the emotional hurt they are going through.
The same thing happens in our personal lives and relationships. It happens so often when people think that they are ready to start new relationships and begin to put themselves out there, but still haven’t resolved their internal fears and insecurities.
They take situations and overcomplicate them. They take simple encounters or conversations and over-think them. Their mind is busy, so they feel like they are getting closer to being “ready”. But when you process things over and over in your head and explore every part of what could go wrong, the fantasy of the potential pain and frustration becomes overwhelming.… Read the rest