Oh em gee. Did you see that Billy is still on OkCupid even though he and Penelope have been dating for, like, 3 months. Scandalous!
Beneath the surface of online dating is this strange passive aggressive code that has nothing to do with what’s on our profiles, but simply whether or not we have them.
It’s a subtle language and a subtle game. Some women play this game with such delicate subtlety that, in fact, most guys never know that a game is being played.
The opening and closing of online dating accounts and things like “recent activity” and “status” are pieces of info that are public and often used to feed into our over-analytical and fantastical mind games.
FULL DISCLOSURE – I’m not judging, I’m writing this because I caught myself playing into the code. I would love to blame “being a shitty millennial under the thumb of technology” but in reality, the reason I sometimes look to this information, is because I still feel waves of insecurity.… Read the rest